I posted this last week on www.curvymaven.com, but I wanted to share with all my lovely tumblr readers as well.
I know some of you know this, but in the wake of the Santa Monica shootings and the #YesAllWomen campaign that followed, I feel now is the time to open up about my own experience.
The relationship started off as many do. He was attractive, said all the right things, and made me feel special at a time in my life where I was desperate for reassurance. Looking back, I realize I was the perfect target for him. I don’t remember when things started to change. It wasn’t all of a sudden. Slowly I started seeing the red flags. He drank too much, had a temper, and picked fights with me constantly. I was his punching bag both physically and emotionally, and yet I thought I was in love with him.
I was walking on eggshells, apologizing for his behavior everywhere we went. I distanced from my family, and felt utterly lost. I blamed myself and believed his lies. I thought things would change. They didn’t.
It took me finding out that he’d been cheating on me to finally walk away. It stung. I cried. I was broken. Looking back, it’s one of my proudest moments. I empowered myself and stopped the cycle of abuse.
Unfortunately my story is NOT unique. Hopefully by speaking out and sharing my experience, I can help someone walk away from abuse.
So #YesAllWomen because I refuse to be silenced or blamed for his actions.